Monday, February 15, 2016

The Marriage Candle - An Intentional Kind of Love

It's happening.

The week is spinning too fast. Commitments press into one another. It's impossible to tell if we're coming or going. Lonny and I are giving one another scraps.

And we're dangerously on the verge of being child-centered again.

We try. We really do. But this week it's a science fair. And swimming. And a dozen other very-good-for-the-boys things.

Our desire is to hold our priorities. God first. Marriage next. Then the children. But we're on a wild track and the pace is steady and hard. We need to step off.

I decide to share this revelation while the van is stacked with kids.

"Do you remember when Marilyn shared about the marriage candle?"

Lonny glances at me. The interstate is loaded with semi-trailer trucks and our vehicle is loaded with noise. We haven't talked about our friend Marilyn for a decade and he obviously has no recollection of a marriage candle. He wonders what he's in for and looks at me like I'm half mad.

"The marriage candle," I say. "She and her husband had one. On the mantle. One of them would light it when their marriage needed time."

"Okay," he says. "I can understand that. Needing some time."

 He's willing and I'm determined.

So when we get home I pull a candle from the closet. It's deep and red and heavy in my hands. I place it on the piano. Strike a match. The wick flickers. Then holds a steady flame.

The marriage candle is lit.

A secret whisper.

It's time to restructure.

It's time for us.

Lord, help us hold our priorities when our world has gone wild. Especially when our world has gone wild. Amen.


  1. Love your blog posts. Always.
    Warm hugs!

  2. I love this! Beautiful reminder of a way to keep our love glowing ~~~

    1. Thank you, Julie. You're a wonderful example with your daily porch very inspiring!

  3. I so needed this reminder today. Feeling stressed and out of sorts and then I read your blog. And somehow, it all gets better. Thank you, dear friend, for sharing. I always love what you write!<3

    1. Oh, thank you, Monica. And I feel the same when I read your very thankful we can encourage one another! See you soon!